So You Want a Better Work Life?

Ebbe Søndergaard honestly

My Journey So Far II

YOU can create a great work life for yourself if you really want to. There is work to do for you to get there. But you are not alone. There are people who want to stand by you and watch you succeed. 

På dansk: Så du vil have et bedre arbejdsliv?

These are realisations that I have had lately. And I want to convey to you how I came to acknowledge that I needed a profound change in my life. A change which held prospects of:

  • Freedom in where and when I wanted to work
  • Being able to work with things that create a state of flow for me
  • Replacing my day job down the line

My Story of Work Life Stress

The need for something new had been building up over years. Especially when viewed in retrospect. It seemed as though my body knew before my mind did. Because stress crept in first in 2014 after organisational changes in the organisation that I worked for. Luckily I was able to dodge the worst effects. 

Complications

The second time it hit harder. And I had to realise that I had been luring myself into a routine of accepting that work was 80 percent consisting of stuff that I had to do and 20 percent stuff that I liked to do. It was very much affecting my life at home as well. I was becoming increasingly depressed as I to an ever higher degree felt I had to sacrifice my free time to deal with work or recover from it. 

To recover from the second “stress crash” I had help from my psychologist, a great coach, exercise in the gym, long walks, retreats and mindfulness over a period of a little more than a year. It took that long to reach a state where I could take on a new job. So I did. 

I was lucky to land in a small municipality where many of my skills were needed: Team coaching, leadership coaching, personality assessment and onboarding being the most prominent. I say luckily because, as I had done with mostly all my previous employments, I didn’t really make a very conscious choice diving into this new job. I took it because I needed it, and I thought I could do it. 

That I could, and I was increasingly happy with the challenge, my tasks and my colleagues. Sadly the government instigated cutbacks to be implemented quickly. To meet them organisational changes had to be made. And I, along with many others, had to go. 

The Change

So there I was. Out in the cold, so to speak … again. This time, though, it was a somewhat different situation. I had been given a very favourable discharge arrangement. Both the municipality and I were very unhappy that this had to happen. So I had some time to think.

And my thoughts circled around if maybe there could be a reason that I was standing here again. Could it be more than just a coincidence that my career had been “broken” so many times in recent years? Was I repeating some sort of mistake in the way I was running? 

Ebbe Søndergaard in Greenland
In Greenland contemplating

This lead me to a realisation that I had been running on autopilot for a long time. There was a clear consistency in the message that came out of my sessions with my psychologist, my coach and the consequential thoughts that I had: I was making life choices for reasons other than my own. Ever since childhood I had been doing what I thought was expected of me. Which is not necessarily a bad thing. But if, as a consequece, you neglect your own wishes and urges, things like stress and discontent happen.

The Six Figure Mentors Network and Me

Jay Kubassek & Stuart Ross, founders of The SFM

So when one day in December 2018 a young Swedish guy by accident showed up in a Youtube ad with a strong message of creating work life freedom by doing online marketing, I became curious. Normally I quickly click “Skip ad” when they appear in Youtube. But this time I was caught by something. Was it his sincerity? Was it my need to find a new way?

He urged me to click on to The Six Figure Mentors where I learned that it is possible to earn a living marketing products and services online. And not only your own products but also earning commissions from marketing other people’s products. 

Thereby creating financial and geographical freedom in that you can work from anywhere and “anywhen” earning by setting up automated sales funnels on the basis of meaningful and trustful communication with people around the world. 

A State of Flow

Intrigued by the offer of a Free 7 Day Video Series, as an introduction to the concept, I signed up and started learning. I was captured by the message of freedom, profound life change and option of self sustained earnings that could come out of continuing the journey with The Six Figure Mentors. 

The next step was a 30 Day Online Education with a fee of $297. So with the promise that if I didn’t think it had value for me, I could within the 30 days get all my money back, I charged out to conquer the online world. I didn’t regret it. 

In fact my encounter with The Six Figure Mentors has set me in a state of flow I haven’t experienced in a long time. It is a creative proces of getting to know yourself and specifying your goals and wishes in life as well as setting up a business. 

A team of coaches, administrators, tech advisors, mentors as well as a huge network of peers are present 24/7 to help and inspire you to grow and become the best version of you possible. I have learned that The Six Figure Mentors is not only an education but also a culture of full tolerance and appreciation that is sincerely there for you to leverage and contribute.

What do you wish for?

What do you want?

When it comes to a better work life, what does “better” mean for you? For me it has come to mean striving for flow. A focus on what I like to do. Getting up in the morning almost not being able to contain my urge to get on with my work of creating more business and communicating with peers and potential peers. 

This kind of work lets me also plan my work life so that I have time for other great activities such as composing and playing music. Our live stock of horses and sheep. Tennis. Long walks. Spending time with my family and my mother and friends.

What is YOUR passion? 

If you want a work life of freedom and flexibility you might benefit from some structured soul searching. Maybe you could use the help of The Six Figure Mentors as well. Who knows. You are also welcome reaching out to me. 

I could be your free coach, helping you on the right track to your goals. 

What do you want?

If you think, I can help you on your way, please drop me a line in the Contact section

If you think The Six Figure Mentors could be a path that could be giving for you click the menu “Digital Lifestyle Training“.

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I Wanted a New Fulfilling Work Life

My Journey So Far

Is online marketing a thing for you? Could it be that great way to make a living and live a life in freedom financially, geographically and time wise? Could it be your way forward?

These are questions I have been asking myself. And it certainly has been a thrill for me, so far. 

På dansk: Jeg ønskede mig et nyt og givende arbejdsliv

Even though I am just starting my journey, I am already experiencing the peace of mind and freedom that I’ve been missing for so long. In fact as I am sitting here, writing this, I am feeling mindfull, relaxed and in peace of mind. It is quiet, I am home, it is the middle of the day and I am free.

Contemplating my journey

I want to tell you about my big personal change that has happened to me during the last two months. For me it has been profound. I am dealing with a steep learning curve on the subject of online marketing – and I am loving it. Every day I can’t wait to learn more, do the deed and be explicit about it. There is a lot of energy to be harvested.

The Six Figure Mentors is the path that I am taking. It is an online course in online marketing – out of the ordinary. It is quite a diminishing understatement to merely call it a course. It is a great experience of sincerity, honesty, helpfulness and competence from great mentors, coaches and a 24/7-there-for-you-network of people in different stages of the same journey as you.

My Story

When I made the decision to make a major work life change I had just experienced a lay off from my job. I have tried that before but due to being down with stress twice. This time the reason was cut backs. And I was after 7 months still the new guy. So it was easy to go one step back for the organisation. 

I was not so much sad as I was irritated that this had to happen again. Still it made me reflect on my career so far. When I started my career after university in 1995 it had become “the-thing-to-do” to change jobs frequently. So 2-5 years in one job, and I would become impatient and often dissatisfied with my work conditions, and beginning to search for new opportunities. 

It was great fun and excillerating to start a new job, but I was always looking for change. I like to think of myself as a patient man. But when it comes to jobs, I have always been impatient. 

I have worked with: 

  • Education management
  • Teaching
  • Information technology
  • Man-machine communication
  • Human resources
  • Coaching
  • Team collaboration development
  • Competence management
  • Talent management
  • Mediation
  • Recruiting
  • Personality assessment

A diverse list with a few common threads. I have learned and experienced a lot. 

Still, after my lay off I had the feeling that career wise the many shifts I had made didn’t seem very much driven by a conscious choice. Results have been many and I have acquired really useful skills. But there was also a feeling of not really moving forward. 

So I had this growing professionality, but why was I feeling empty?

The signs seemed clear to me: I was running into stress several times and I had a feeling of not having enough time for leisure, music, family and actually nurturing my core skills. It was what you might call a mid life crisis. And it was a lack of meaning.

In December of 2018 I stumbled upon a video by a Swedish guy, Emil Sundell, who in it talked about being dissatisfied with his 9 to 5 and building a new life of freedom and flexibility learning online affiliate marketing. He offered that I could do the same and start my journey for free to get a feel of what it entailed. I was intrigued, so I did. I learned about The Six Figure Mentors and I met Stuart Ross and Jay Kubassek who made an impression of trust and competence like no other.

Affiliate Marketing? What Is It? 

I learned that you can make money online promoting other people’s products and services. And not only that. You can also – with the same tools – promote your own business. Ultimately creating a life for yourself where you can work from home, or anywhere in the world, with a combination of setting up funnels, communicating real time, blogging, creating a presence on social media and automating communication and sales. 

Affiliate marketing is about earning commission from promoting other people’s business.

I made a choice to try and create an online presence around my own skills as well as being an affiliate for The Six Figure Mentors (SFM). It made sense, since much of my professionality has to do with facilitating change. And SFM made it possible for me to make a significant change in my work life. This could serve as one of a few products and services I could promote as a solution for others to leverage, too. It seemed an obvious connection.

My Goals

Being thankful

The journey with the SFM has revealed to me that it is not simply a money scheme. It is truly a fundamental life changing experience of serious soul searching, goal setting and spirituality as well. And the community of SFM supports all of these aspects, too.

So the process of setting business goals has been equally profound. In fact, at this stage I am not sure that my process is finished. However, so far I am absolutely sure that I want to seriously help people achieving their goals as much as I want to achieve my own. 

So coaching, development and support are wonderful tools to do just that. 

What are your goals?

Marketing (and finding) Yourself Online

Building a business online is very much about building a personal presence. And it is building trust with people. These very lines are meant to be exactly that. And I hope that I have come across to you in a way that makes you feel safe. 

To the point: The process that SFM takes you through is a safe way to explore your potential, find your core values, get to know yourself – or whatever you would call it. And doing it while learning a new skill in an appreciative environment of people who know what you are going through and are always there to help.

You might want to try it for yourself

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I’ll be following up on my progress of finding myself and honing my skills to meet my mission for you to read in the time to come, if you are interested. So stay tuned.

6 Benefits of Coaching in Counselling

Guidance and counselling are often perceived as patronizing – like a parent telling her child what to do. Just as the child often does not comply with what her parents recommend, the counselled person will have a natural resistance to turning guidance into action.

På dansk: 6 fordele ved coaching i vejledning

Therefore, coaching is an excellent approach in counselling situations.

The word “coach” originally means “the driver of a coach/wagon”. Oxford University turned the word into slang, using it to signify an “instructor”. In the United States, the word has since been used in the world of sport as an expression for “trainer”.

It makes sense in the modern world. The coach focuses on promoting exactly the potential that the individual practitioner has. At the same time, the practitioner must learn to love precisely his potential – his special qualities and abilities. And yes, we all have special potential.

6 Examples of Coaching Being Better Than Counselling

1 A Coach Posts Questions and Listens So That The Client Herself Finds Her Solution

Coach listening to client

A counseling meeting that has a “coaching” style will have less focus on handing over the supervisor’s knowledge to the client, and more on finding the client’s motivation and special competencies in relation to solving the task, acting on the given opportunities, reaching expressed goals. You may want to argue: “But there is often a specific framework that the client must act within. Certain terms and objectives that stand firm and which the client does not have the authority to formulate on his own – let alone reformulate. ”

There will always be frameworks and conditions. Once acknowledged and accepted, you can start coaching. It is important that conditions is something that you have a conversation about agreeing to – not something to “preach”. Terms are just the framework within which opportunities can play out. Once you’ve agreed on the terms there is a large, inspiring playground where the practitioner can be allowed to formulate his or her own goals and plans.

2 Coaching Is Motivating and Empowering

The opportunity of coaching to gain power over the situation and adapting goals according to her own wishes empowers the client – also in relation to continued motivation. The client is systematically led through phases in a process which leads to qualified action. Phases that go from …

  • Exploring what it is important to find solutions for, over…
  • Barriers, opportunities and resources to…
  • The action plan and implementation.

In other words, the client gets a very clear sense of having power over her life at least when it comes to the part being counselled on.

3 Coaching Promotes a Feeling That Obstacles Have Already Been Overcome

 Overcoming obstacles

In coaching, you work on anticipating obstacles and barriers – be it in the environment or internal, limiting beliefs. And each of these obstacles to development is being addressed so that the action plan seems to have already been resolved. The client knows exactly what to do. Sometimes you have to do special exercises in the form of visualization, so that you have almost experienced beforehand how the “problem was solved”.

4 Based On An Idea That The Individual Attracts Exactly What He Wants – For Better Or Worse

Attracting the universe

Any coaching starts in one way or another by examining what it is that the client wants. Which issue to work with and what the client wants for herself. The process of executing the planned implementation becomes easier if the client can visualize – truly feel – how the world looks when the goal is reached. The client is encouraged to describe himself and his situation as if the goal has already been reached. It may seem unscientific, and it may also be (though probably not). But it works to create routines around talking to oneself, visualizing, meditating. The idea of ​​attracting what you are thinking of is described in the book “The Secret” (watch the video), which describes the phenomenon called “The Law of Attraction”. When you intensely think about things you desire and want, the universe will give it to you – whether good or bad, and whether realised or not. So the visualization of the good scenario is of course extremely important.

5 The Good Story Is Put On Center Stage – And The Bad Set In The Background

There are many stories related to any problem or challenge. Both the client’s own, but also the client’s interpretation of others’ views on the problem. Sometimes these are predominantly problematic stories. Other stories are positive. The negative narratives can be the reason why the situation has become locked and unmanageable. Therefore, you should typically examine all the alternative stories. “Is your teacher always angry with you? Are there situations where he is not angry? What happens then?” By asking many questions about situations when the problem does not occur, one can move the negative focus and introduce a more positive focus. It is very powerful and conducive to problem solving and progress.


6 Coaching Creates Motivational Action Plans That You Can’t Wait to Get Started With

Photo by Oliver Sjöström – ollivves.com

The result of the above “dance steps” is action plans created by the client himself within a positive and motivating framework, created jointly with the counseling supervisor. With his questions, the coach has created a “playground” for the client’s exploration of a better path. An action plan should preferably be sufficiently ambitious so that it is not routine. Something needs to be at stake, maybe some risk to be run. It helps to make the plan and the implementation sufficiently motivating and attractive.

With a coaching approach, guidance and counselling become a more power free situation. And it is important that, if you as a supervisor want to use coaching, make sure to give up power. As a supervisor, you should be curious and listening. Let the client speak. And if you absolutely feel you need to introduce a recommendation, ask for permission first – and allow the client to freely choose whether or not to use your recommendation.